Friday, March 28, 2014

Benefit of the Doubt

I love reading things that have me nodding my head yes in agreement the whole time. The posts and articles that resonate with me so much I wish the words were my own. More than that, I love being inspired by reading those things. When I was growing up, my mom would always tell me "What you put in is what you get out." She meant it in the sense of who we spent our time with, what we watched on TV, what we read - all of those things that we are putting into our mind are exactly what we get out. At the time I was so frustrated. Why can I not be friends with Nicole? Why can I not watch MTV?! Why am I not allowed to buy that CD with the warning label? Seriously mom, come on! I would make arguments, ask why I wasn't trusted. Here is the thing, mom's are always right and this was no exception. The friends she discouraged me from being close with when I was 13 went down drastically different paths, and 10+ years later the truth is so evident: what you put in is what you get out.

Now I realize this more than ever and am making a conscious effort to monitor what I am putting in. When I read inspired things, when I surround myself with positive people, when I view gracious photos on Instagram - my mind is processing it all. Holding onto things that I don't even realize. At least that is what I am hoping. :) So, in the spirit of putting in things in that will be help me more patient, kind and forgiving (which Lord knows I need) here is what have left me inspired lately...

"Let us shock people like Jesus did, inviting ourselves to the home of the tax collector, defending the accused with gentleness while everyone else holds rocks, sharing a cold cup of water at high noon with someone tangled in sin and despair, refusing to disparage though it is the easiest, most popular option.
Benefit of the doubt to strangers we perceive as adversaries.
Benefit of the doubt to individuals rather than guilt by association.
Benefit of the doubt to folks from other ideologies, worldviews, value systems.
Benefit of the doubt to our spouses, choosing grace, grace, grace.
Benefit of the doubt to our children; shock them with mercy.
Benefit of the doubt to our pastors. They are just people.
Benefit of the doubt to our friends. Assuming the worst is the worst."

Yes, I'm still over here nodding my head in agreement! You can read the full article here. I'm blessed my a husband, mom, sisters, friends, coworkers and dog who consistently give me the benefit of the doubt. I am really, really going to work on doing the same for them. Feel free to hold me accountable with this. Happy Friday sweet friends - have a wonderful weekend!

1 comment:

  1. You are so lucky to have a loving and caring mama who teaches you wonderful things!!