Thursday, July 31, 2014

Twenty five!

Somehow I blinked and it is July 31st and I am TWENTY FIVE. How did that happen?! I feel like just yesterday I was turning 20 years old in college - throwing a party that had my apartment carpet floors blacker than black. Looking back on the last 25 years, I couldn't be more thankful for the truly incredible people I have in my life and the experiences I've had with them. Here are twenty five things I've learned from my twenty five sweet little years of life...

1. I've learned how little I actually know. I distinctly remember being 15 and knowing IT ALL. I had it all figured out. As I get older, the more I realize I know so little about everything. It is completely humbling and makes me so

2. Plans shouldn't be concrete. Ever. That is the adventure! God has a plan that is bigger and better than the measly ones I make in my head and write on my calendar. So when things go a little crazy (like last Sunday morning when Sebastian decided to take a poop bath 10 minutes before we were going to leave for church) I should just breathe and go with it. (For the record, I freaked out like a mad woman after the poop bath. Still learning here!)

3. I am realizing just how many people love me in spite of myself. There are times where I have been so careless, selfish, forgetful and unkind and I have so many people who have loved me in spite of those things.

4. Don't take it personally. Seriously, self, don't.

5.  It is okay to be a little insecure - EVERYBODY is. For some reason, this last year I struggled with insecurity more than I ever had in my life. I think some of it was over thinking, but a lot of it was comparison. At the end of the day, though, it is

6. Comparison is the thief of joy.

7. Religion should be more of a love affair and less of a theory. I read this on She Reads Truth (please follow their Instagram if you don't already) a few weeks ago and I haven't been able to stop thinking about it.

8. Be kinder.

9. Life is better with more spontaneity. I am a planner by nature, but more and more I'm realizing the importance of not planning everything.

10. Pamper yourself. For some reason the last few years I have had it in my mind that it is selfish to take good care of myself. But the last few months, I've realized that is not the case. It is important to take care of yourself!

11. People are important. Not clothes, not cars, not being right, not a pretty home. People.

12. Budget. Now I am by no means a perfect example, I don't think there is one month that Preston and I have ever stayed 100% on budget. But one thing we make sure to do is have our savings taken out of our check before it is deposited into our account - out of site, out of mind!

13. Sleep is important. Somewhere around 22-23, I lost all ability to function on less than 6 hours of sleep a night. The days of being a college freshman and drinking all night and then waking up at 7 for a sunrise hike feeling completely seem so far in the past - I would give my right arm to be able to do that these days!

14. Travel! Little trips, big trips, staycations, weekends away - the past few years my very favorite memories have been from time traveling with my sweet husband. I would take a trip over new clothes any day of the week.

15. Don't judge!!! If this is one thing I want to focus on the next  year (or next 25!) it would be this. I am the last person that should ever judge anybody and when I catch myself doing it (often) I try to gently remind myself of this fact.

16. Jesus is the best role model. Unfailing love, unending grace.

17. Just say it. Stop holding it in. I will always have thoughts in my head of things I'd like to say and stop myself, because, is that weird? Should I tell that random stranger at Trader Joe's who is so patient and tender with her three kids that she is such a great example?! I've been trying to get out of my comfort zone lately and say these things and always feel SO much better when I do!

18. Grudges are so not worth it, ever! When I was younger, I remember holding onto things that hurt me so closely. I would try to remember the hurtful things done and said to me so I could hold those people at bay, not ever letting myself get close to them. That is the worst idea ever. Letting go of things is one of the most freeing things possible.

19. Listen more than you talk. Especially in groups, I've found how much nicer it is to sit and listen to what people are saying and to hear their stories, and their feelings, than being concerned with getting my own two cents in.

20. Reading is the best. Absolutely nothing can soothe my soul the way reading a good book can. I've also learned that libraries and book stores are my happy places.

21. Take walks. Lots of them. The talks that Preston and I have on our walks are our best. It's where we plan, goal set, dream up future trips and have fun!

22. Life should not be taken all that seriously.

23. Friends are SO important. Those relationships with girlfriends should be absolutely cherished.

24. Cooking is one of the best ways to show love to people.

25. Never feeling bad about eating good ice cream. Or drinking a delicious glass of red wine.

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